Barely Visible by Kathleen Somers
A heartfelt, eye-opening memoir that lingers long after the final page.
Kathleen Somers’ Barely Visible: Mothering a Son Through His Misunderstood Autism is a deeply moving memoir that chronicles one mother’s emotional journey through grief, motherhood and the challenges of raising a neurodivergent child. With unflinching honesty, Somers invites readers into the most intimate corners of her life, offering a powerful story of resilience, advocacy and unconditional love.
The memoir opens with a heart-wrenching decision: to terminate a pregnancy after learning that her unborn daughter has a rare chromosomal disorder. This tragic loss becomes the emotional backdrop for the rest of the book, shaping Somers’s approach to parenting her second child, Jack. Born healthy and full of promise, Jack’s early development seems typical until subtle but persistent differences begin to surface. Eventually, he is diagnosed with Asperger’s syndrome, a form of autism that is often misunderstood because it’s not outwardly visible.
Parenting with Patience and Grace
The title, Barely Visible, poignantly captures the essence of Jack’s experience. Because his condition isn’t immediately apparent, he is frequently misjudged by teachers, peers and even family. What others interpret as rudeness or lack of discipline, Somers reveals as the misunderstood expressions of a boy navigating a confusing world with a brain wired differently. Her frustration with society’s lack of awareness is palpable, yet she approaches each challenge with grace and a steady determination to be Jack’s fiercest advocate.
As a narrator, Somers is candid and compelling. She doesn’t shy away from the messy, exhausting realities of parenting, especially when that parenting requires learning a whole new language of patience, structure and advocacy. Her voice is warm, often humorous, and refreshingly real. Through setbacks in the education system, moments of isolation and painful self-doubt, she offers an unvarnished portrayal of what it means to parent a child who doesn’t fit the mold.
The Quiet Heroism of Parenthood
Jack is the quiet heart of the memoir. Somers paints him not as a symbol of a diagnosis, but as a fully realized person: bright, funny, literal, sensitive and wonderfully unique. Her love for him is fierce and unwavering, and the glimpses of their bond, especially as he grows older, are some of the most touching moments in the book.
Themes of motherhood, loss, resilience and social acceptance are woven seamlessly throughout. The memoir is both a love letter to a misunderstood child and a call to reframe how we think about difference. It challenges readers to move beyond first impressions and invites a deeper empathy for those whose struggles may be invisible.
Ultimately, Barely Visible is not just a story about autism — it’s a story about the quiet heroism of parenthood, the courage it takes to face the unknown, and the beauty found in the unexpected. It’s an essential read for parents, educators and anyone who believes in the power of compassion.
Kathleen Somers, a debut author, holds a Bachelor of Fine Arts from Temple University’s Tyler School of Art, and works as a freelance graphic designer and copywriter. She is a passionate observer of humanity who believes in the power of connection that comes from each of us sharing our individual stories, and the importance of authenticity when doing it. Having spent 24 years guiding her son through a disability most can’t see has not made her an authority on the topic. It’s having been the student to all that he has taught her that has brought her closer than anything ever will. When Kathleen isn’t busy with her career as a creative, she is out on her bike finding new roads to explore or spending time with her son, opening his eyes to everything the world has to offer, both big and small. She lives with her family in the suburbs of Philadelphia.
Publish Date: 4/1/2025
Genre: Memoir, Nonfiction
Author: Kathleen Somers
Page Count: 312 pages
Publisher: She Writes Press
ISBN: 9781647428822